Selling season means moving season.
Mar 15, 2021
There's lots to remember when moving the kids.
Moving from one house to another is seldom easy or fun for adults and it can be especially troubling for children. if parents deal with their children’s concerns and needs thoroughly, much of that distress and discomfort can be avoided.
Children see moves differently than their parents do and they benefit from less from the change in their comfortable routines or so it seems at the time. Most often a change in houses or communities Harold’s an important step forward for the adult members of the family. The family moves because daddy or mommy has a great job or the family whose because.
They move because financial success has allowed the purchase of a bigger and nicer house in a more costly neighborhood. They move because they can finally afford private bedrooms for each child and perhaps a pool in the backyard. In the 1990s mobile and hard striving people typically live in a house for about four years and then move on as their careers or fortunes allow. That short time span is only a small percentage of life to date for 30 or 40-year-old but the same for years is have a life to an eight-year-old and includes almost all the years he or she can remember to a parent this house may be only the place they have live recently they think of it as a waystation on the road of life. The kids however it may be the only home they have ever really known this is their house the place they feel safe and comfortable and thoroughly at home with. The house is much more than roof and walls to a child. It is the center of his or her world anymore. They move threatens to take that sphere away and leave something totally strange in his place. The familiar friends’ schools’ shops and theaters the streets trees and parks I will no longer exist for them everything soon will be strange and they will live in someone else’s world.
The impact of a move on a typical child starts about the time he or she first here’s a daddy has excepted a promotion and also continues for about a year until the new house becomes home and memories of the previous life ‘s fade. It’s not usually necessary to announce this be changed to children immediately, although they must hear about it from you before someone else breaks the news. Most teenagers see themselves as adult members of the family and will probably feel they have been left out if they don’t hear everything from the first day. But it’s probably not a good idea to tell toddlers and preschoolers until they have to know. There’s no point in making them worry far in advance. You might say how proud you are that daddy ‘s company has chosen him out of other employees to manage a new office in Cleveland. Talk about what a beautiful city Cleveland is how very positive stories about how nice the new house will be. Ask them what the favorite things are in their lives now and then try to make them happen in the new home. If the new home is too far away to allow a visit for the entire family after has been selected, so the children pictures of it from every angle videotape it Facebook live it if you can. Empathize the positive use of a shirt on for pictures of each child’s new room. Try to name the house with some romantic description like Oak Hill for the big trees in the slop in line.
Sugarcoating will help, but since children can quickly see the negative sides of most situations every parent must plan to deal with their children’s worries, fears and sorrows. The children will lose friends they have known all their lives. They will leave behind their sports teams, their clubs, and their dancing teachers. They will have to start over in a new place making friends, becoming excepted and fitting into different groups. Younger children need protection from fear of the unknown. Listen carefully to their concerns and respond quickly to LA their apprehensions. It would be normal for instants, for a young child to worry that his or her toybox and shelf of stuffed animals might be left behind. Find those anxieties and correct them. Probably the best tactic is to get the children actively involved in the whole process. Don’t just promise to let them decorate their own rooms, for example. Take them to the paint store and let them bring home color swatches, stop for bedspreads and towels and carpets. They must leave old friends behind, so find ways to make their parting almost pleasant. Plan a going away party and let them invite their own guests. Take pictures of everyone and make a photo album. If a child is old enough, sent him or her out with a roll of film in the camera and the assignment to photograph the views they will want to remember. Some relationships will be extremely difficult to break and these will demand careful, thoughtful, personalized planning by both parents. How for instance, how do you move 17-year-old 1000 miles away from her steady boyfriend?
Expect that your children may even be more distressed after the move than they were before it. The new house will not be as beautiful the night after the move-in leaves or, for months after. The furniture won’t fit the rooms. The curtains won’t be up, and every spot on the floor will be covered with half unpacked cartons. The children won’t know anyone at school and if you move during the summer, they may have a little opportunity to meet anyone their age. you may be faced with many more problems in your new communities then they will, but remember that you can handle them more easily than they can. They will need your help and you should plan to give them the support they need. After the move give each of them a long-distance telephone call allowance or set up a Facebook Live account so they can keep in touch with the people back home who matter the most to them. Buy a stack of picture postcards that show positive use of your community and encourage them to write good news messages to the friends and relatives I left behind. To make new friends, make sure the children don’t vegetate in front of the television. Get them outside, we’re neighbors pass by have them pass out flyers to do babysitting or car washing. Encourage them to participate in as many school activities as they can handle. Get them on sports teams and into clubs.
If they, and you, aren’t making new friends fast enough throw a housewarming party for yourselves and invite all the adults and children on the block. If serious emotional or afternoon no problems arise, ask a teacher for help. Consider professional counseling. Don’t let a serious problem slide. Remember that the newness would wear off. New friends will become old friends and best friends. This new house will become the family Homestead your grandchildren will visit every holiday season. There will be discomfort, but in the long run, everything will work out fine.